Pull back phase dating

05-Sep-2015 22:16

And if they suddenly snap out of it, and return to you, you can decide what to do…THEN.

The answer is somewhat obvious but counter-intuitive- let him have some space.

He’ll come in and out as he works out his feelings and becomes comfortable in the relationship. Whenever we feel like someone is pulling back from us, our first response is to lean hard and close to reduce the space. Instead of drowning out the silence, eliminate the tension and let the relationship lull a little.

Meanwhile, we all try to establish our sense of self both inside and outside our relationships. Stop recounting every last minute of the phone conversation you just had and find things in your life that you enjoy. It should give him the incentive to move back towards you.

OK, so I was looking at my Blog Stats, and almost all of my “new” traffic (which, I can’t believe I actually have traffic, haha) is because of what I wrote about the pull back phase. But what I’ve seen is that usually the woman in the relationship ends up feeling so hurt/abandoned/annoyed that by the time he returns, she’s not into it anymore.

Here’s what I wrote: Another topic: The rubberbanding/pull-back phase/pre-attachment freakout. Some of my friends say it doesn’t exist when it’s *right.* Myself, I think that love is like the lottery – some people win it big, and others have to chip away at that grind stone but they will still end up OK in the end.

The answer is somewhat obvious but counter-intuitive- let him have some space.

He’ll come in and out as he works out his feelings and becomes comfortable in the relationship. Whenever we feel like someone is pulling back from us, our first response is to lean hard and close to reduce the space. Instead of drowning out the silence, eliminate the tension and let the relationship lull a little.

Meanwhile, we all try to establish our sense of self both inside and outside our relationships. Stop recounting every last minute of the phone conversation you just had and find things in your life that you enjoy. It should give him the incentive to move back towards you.

OK, so I was looking at my Blog Stats, and almost all of my “new” traffic (which, I can’t believe I actually have traffic, haha) is because of what I wrote about the pull back phase. But what I’ve seen is that usually the woman in the relationship ends up feeling so hurt/abandoned/annoyed that by the time he returns, she’s not into it anymore.

Here’s what I wrote: Another topic: The rubberbanding/pull-back phase/pre-attachment freakout. Some of my friends say it doesn’t exist when it’s *right.* Myself, I think that love is like the lottery – some people win it big, and others have to chip away at that grind stone but they will still end up OK in the end.

He seems to be interested in you and showers you with attention- phone calls, dates, hand holding! You are sensing a shift and, quite frankly, it does not feel good. As a partner, our first response is to try and fix the problem.